We are reaching a very busy time of year, with a lot of events coming up all at once. Sometimes things in life just don’t seem to go our way. Some days can be exhausting and we might feel overwhelmed or overworked. Oftentimes this can cause us to become forgetful of the many things we have to be grateful for. We start to complain about things or people that hold so much beauty, and so much worth. I think a major part of growing up as an individual, or improving as an adult is learning to accept what we cannot change. In time, we may have control over more things that we wish to change in our lives, but we can’t change it all. We must learn how to change our perspective. We must learn how to maintain a peaceful mind.
I know complaining about things might not seem like a major issue any of us need to worry about, but it can really affect us and the way other individuals view our personalities. Complaining is a vicious cycle, and the more you do it, the more likely you are to do it over and over again. Eventually, this negativity will wear you out. You will likely forget about many of the positive aspects of your life and focus solely on the negative. Did you know that this can affect your mental health? These daily bits of negativity can build up and lower your self-esteem and greatly affect your mood.
It is both good and healthy to talk with someone and tell them what is on your mind. However, there is a difference between venting to someone and complaining to him or her. Venting is speaking to someone and letting him or her know what you are feeling at the time. He or she may give you some friendly advice and help you in any way that he or she can. If not, though, you are probably able to tolerate the situation. On the other hand, when you complain, you may be putting others down, or speaking negatively of things that you have no control over. You may even refuse positive reinforcements and choose to stay angry about the situation.
Do you see how that may affect the way other individuals look at you? It’s not always easy or fair to tolerate difficult situations, and you don’t ALWAYS have to, but that’s the thing about life; it is NOT always easy or fair. Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest thing to do. In the end, though, your peaceful mind will prove to be really rewarding. We can complain all we want, but aren’t there better things we could be doing?
Learning to keep a peaceful mind in a world of chaos takes a lot of time and patience, but it will prove to be worth it in the end. It’s a difficult concept to grasp, but if we can’t change things right now, we have to find a way to accept them. Sometimes all it takes is a few minutes of silence to remember the tremendous amount of things we have to be grateful for in the present moment. Sure, not everything will go our way all the time, but that’s life. We can all learn something from every one of life’s challenges. We ALL have to experience troubles at some point, but the way in which we deal with those troubles determines our happiness. A wise person once said “Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don’t have.”
What difficulties have you recently faced in your life? Can you change these difficulties? If not, how have you dealt with them? Thank you for reading today’s blog. I hope that you enjoyed it. Stop back next Monday for the next blog post!