Listening To Understand


Have you ever felt like people were hearing your voice but not hearing your words?  It’s common to feel this way… It’s easy to speak first before letting someone else finish what they have to say.  As individuals, we just want to spit out everything that hits the tip of our tongues.  We often forget that the opinions of others are just as important as our own.  We forget to listen and understand them.

One important lesson I have learned in my life is to put others before myself.  It is not an easy task and I continue to work at it every day, but it is crucial in order to make connections with others and to become the best person you can possibly be.  A very important aspect of this lesson comes from listening to other people.  I know we all want our voices to be heard in this world, but it is a group task.  It is not about you, it is not about me, it is about all of us.  I believe everyone holds a special place in this world and if we take the time to listen to each other more we will create a more peaceful and wonderful world that it was set out to be.

It happens all the time.  Someone introduces an exciting topic to a conversation and all of a sudden everyone is eager to chime in.  You just can’t wait for everyone to react to what you have to say, so you blurt it out.  How do people react?  Do you think people would have reacted differently if you had waited until they were done speaking?  What about the people who are sitting quietly by themselves?  Do you think they may have had something to say?

Often times we forget those calm and quiet individuals.  We assume that if they wanted to, they would have voiced their opinion or told us what was really on their minds.  Unfortunately, though, that is not normally the case. Perhaps some people are afraid of being rejected.  Maybe they have been ridiculed in the past.  Let’s not forget that many people take time to think before they talk.  We must make sure that those people have a voice in our world too.  Don’t be afraid to talk to them and make them feel more welcome in this overwhelming world.

Everyone has feelings and some feel things deeper than others.  It just feels so good sometimes to talk to someone about these emotions to get them off our mind.  As we approach the Christmas season, make an effort to ask the people around you how their day is going.  Give them a chance to really tell you everything they wish to before you even say a word.  Chances are you will probably learn more about that person or your own life in general that you may have never known.  As you give them your devoted attention, they will be much more likely to do the same for you in return.  Your ability to listen to someone and to understand them is more valuable than any other Christmas gift you could ever give them.  Just take a deep breath in, take a deep breath out, and listen. 🙂

Do you ever struggle to listen to other people, or do you struggle to be heard?  Please share in the comments below or by clicking on my Contact page.  Thank you for reading! 




6 thoughts on “Listening To Understand

  1. Brita Britnell says:

    oh man. I definitely struggle with this. My whole life I’ve been that person who’s just waiting you someone to stop speaking so that I can say something. I’ve really been working on that lately. to be better at just listening and really hearing people.


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